This is really hard for us to admit but it’s time for us to stop nitpicking our boyfriends. Our need to criticize stems from: a. The potential you see in your guy and b. Your desire to date the prince charming you’ve always dreamed of ever since you can remember. Truth is, there are better ways to motivate him and prince charming is not real.
We’re all human and we all will make mistakes.According to eHarmony, we can view men as “projects” that we can “fix.” From a man’s perspective, “Women see potential. They see rough edges, and they want to sand them off. This makes us crazy.” This couldn’t be truer. Furthermore, they view our constant need to be critical as a nag. Yes, we know and understand that it may not be what we are trying to do; however, it is how we come off to them. Maybe lay off the nagging if they forget to call or text us when they’re with their friends and start enjoying this alone time ourselves. If he calls or texts us at least once, we should be ok with that.
“If you pick holes about everything from what he wears to how he speaks, bear in mind nobody wants to be around a nag, and not if she is a girlfriend, for sure. You will give him the impression that he winds you up more than soothes your nerves.” In other words, we can make our man, who we love so much or actually enjoy being around, feel like he just can’t do anything right. This isn’t a feeling that we would want him to have. Again, we do mean well, but try to see it from his perspective.
Nagging, nitpicking or looking for flaws adds negativity to your relationship. “Bringing a negative spirit into your relationship crowds out the positive.” Even though we are speaking on something as small as playing too many video games, not noticing a simple change in our appearance or him not spending as much time with you as we’d like, these small arguments can create one large dark cloud that can ruin the relationship for good. It just does not seem worth it, does it?
We have to give them a break from the constant flaw announcements, if you will. If we really love these men, let’s find a way to ignore the little things and look at it from another perspective. If the overall relationship is fun, healthy and amazing for the most part, set the petty stuff aside and show him some appreciation for who he is. It really could save the relationship.
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