Hey girl. So college came and went, and with it left all hope of meeting “the one” during your days dancing atop tables on Saturday nights at university.
Maybe you were busy leading the speech team to a collegiate championship or off galavanting with Spanish suitors while studying abroad in Europe last year.
Whatever the reason, you’re a single lady. And that’s okay. In fact, it’s more than okay because I’m betting you are a strong, independent, (almost) grown-up woman. (Or at least you’re still convincing yourself you are. Don’t worry, so am I).
But even us independent gals can’t deny that it is fun to have someone around. Especially when he’s cute, has great hair (or is that just me?) and can make you laugh. The question is, how does one meet attractive young men in the crazy, real life world without social mixers and distant friends who somehow know that cute guy in physics? Read on, my single friend.
Befriend Your Co-Workers
There may be a day when you live alone in a new city. I applaud you for taking a risk. The easiest place to start making friends is at the workplace. Try to get to know and befriend your coworkers—ask them to meet for coffee or lunch. After work drinks are also a great way to break the ice, as well as scope out the locals.
Bars With Happy Hours
While the idea of dating a successful businessman may sound enchanting, the reality is that most men near our ages are no Daddy Warbucks. And why should they be? I fully expect their lives to be as messy as ours. Embrace your youth with the rest of the twenty-somethings by checking out a few of the bars around town that feature killer after work drink specials.
A Wednesday night $3-you-call-it special sounds like the perfect place for young, cool guys to have a good time without breaking their wallets. So, it’s the perfect opportunity for you to mosey on over to snag their numbers.Local Events/Bar Openings
On that note, do some research about local events. If you live in a metropolitan area like Chicago or New York, there are probably lots of events or festivals planned throughout the weekend. Keep an eye out for new bars opening, and when you hear of one, round up your girlfriends for a night out on the town. If you don’t have any friends (own it girl), ask your co-workers where their favorite hangout spots are and then ask them to join you.
Local Concerts
If you’re a music lover, this is the perfect way to meet guys that share a common interest. Approach a cutie and converse about the band or hell, stay after to meet the band themselves if you’re feeling frisky. Speaking from personal experience, sometimes writing your number on the back of a Subway receipt and handing it to a guitarist on stage actually works out. Some may call this desperate, I call it proactive. If you want something, you’ve gotta go get it.
Tinder
That’s right. I said Tinder. Ain’t no shame in the Tinder game when you’re getting free drinks from a hottie, now is there? And anyway, Tinder has led to many successful relationships, so why shouldn’t you jump on the bandwagon too? Beware of weirdos though, as they are more than plentiful. Tinder is truly great for talking to people (shocker) and asking around for recommendations for cool bars or restaurants to visit on the weekends.
Online Dating
While I personally think everyone’s too young for online dating unless they’re pushing 30, I also understand desperate times call for desperate measures. Don’t mistake this as me calling you desperate if you online date. Ya gotta do what ya gotta do, after all. Online dating sites are obviously an easy way to meet men you’re compatible with.
Put Yourself Out There
The most important thing when trying to meet new people—whether it be men or people in general—is to put yourself out there. Although you may be sipping martinis at happy hour, being physically present is often not enough. Make conversation with others, go tell that girl you’ve been glancing back at for the past 10 minutes you love her bag and don’t be afraid to approach someone. Men are often intimidated by women in a group settings, so don’t depend on him coming up to you. Remember, you’re a smart, sexy and desirable woman. You got this.
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