When overnight bags get too annoying to pack and paying rent for two living spaces is just a waste of money, it may be time to move in together.
Both of you should feel ready and agree that it is the right time. Be prepared to work as a team and be willing to take the good with the bad.
There’s a lot of work and compromise that goes into cohabiting with a significant other. Both people have to make sacrifices, but it is an exciting time and prepping the correct way will make this big step even better.
We suggest getting all financial discussions out of the way first so that there are no surprises. There’s always going to be a “breadwinner” as it’s very rare that both people in the relationship will have matching salaries. Both parties will have different personal bills such as car payments and student loans, so making individual debt to income lists will give you an idea of what each of you can handle. For example, one person can handle the rent and the other can handle the utilities. Being open about your finances and willing to compromise will make the discussion much easier.
Deciding where to live can be tricky whether you’re looking for a new place or deciding on your place or theirs. Make a list of what each person wants in a living space and find a place that accommodates most of it that is within your price range. Also, consider the distances between your potential home and your workplaces and/or schools. Traveling too far day after day can be both exhausting and pricey with gas costs on the rise.
This process requires a lot of research and though, so be patient.The next thing to think about is interior design. Say goodbye to your personal decor tastes and mature to a more compromised look. This could mean ditching your super girly pieces and finding neutrals and themes that accommodate both of your personal styles. This part can be frustrating and fun. Keep an open mind and know that you can always decide on a place with enough space to have a man cave and a cute, girly room or office.
Keeping your love nest nice and neat will require teamwork. Studies show that couples who divide household chores are happier than couples who do not. Figure out who is responsible for what in order to avoid arguments and stay sane.
Moving in together is a relationship milestone. You will learn a lot about yourself and each other on this bumpy yet exciting ride. Good luck and happy housewarming!
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