There are a million reasons to break up with someone. And it’s not always easy to identify if it’s a necessary split or if the issue is too large to fix with proper communication.
Any way you slice it, breaking up is hard. No one wants to break someone’s heart. If it’s an amicable break up, it’s just as difficult for the initiator because there are plenty of positive feelings, memories and hopes that went with the relationship.
However, starting fresh is important. It may even be possible to remain friends if you take appropriate break up steps.The first is to do it in person. Everyone knows how awful it is to convey important messages via text. Why would you break up with someone like this? Would you throw in an emoji to drive the point home? This morphs into the next point. You have to be a mature adult about the break up. Telling Stacy who told James who told Lexi to tell your significant other it’s over isn’t fair to your partner. If you have spent a good deal of time together, it’s only respectful to do it yourself without fanfare or rumors. Your partner should be the first person to hear the news, not all your friends.
The truth of the matter is this person meant, and often still means, something to you. You need to be honest and respectful. Losing feelings slowly over time is usually what makes the break up hard. If there was cheating or a huge dramatic event, it probably still is painful to actually break up, but it probably wasn’t hard to actually say, “We’re breaking up.”
It’s also important to note that thinking about breaking up, or researching it on the internet, doesn’t mean you actually want to end a relationship. It’s so easy to fall sway to Google and convince yourself it’s time to break up merely because you were curious or unsure of your feelings. If you actually wanted to break up with someone you would know.
It’s always going to be messy business, but, if you handle the matter, and your partner, with respect, there’s no reason there can’t be good terms and friendship. It all centers on maturity and, with any luck, a healthy relationship all along.
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